Not every woman, but most women want to share their lives with a significant other and live happily ever after.  It is not always about the kids, the house with the white picket fence and the cars.  For me it’s the thought of lifelong companionship with the one person on earth who gets you and can get “it” from you!  PAUSE ~  I mean let’s be real, my best friend gets me and I ADORE her. There is definitely a difference...

BEEEEEEEEEEEP…. This text just in. “PSM, I am engaged to get married. I wanted to call you and tell you, but after I told her about what happened between me and you awhile back, she asked if I would refrain from speaking to you.  I rather you hear it from me than someone else…I apologize for any pain or strife I’ve caused you within our journey.  With all the pain we experienced together, loving you made it worth...

Hey!  I miss you sooo much!  There are things that have happened over the last few weeks that I would normally have a field day with on this blog, but… Here’s the scoop. You know I write anonymously – for the most part.  There are a few people who know who I am and all of them do not have my best interest at heart.  It is kind of difficult to write about my intimate feelings and life when I know the haters are lurking.  My...

I made a mistake. I was out of line and it is not the first time. I have made numerous mistakes in the past. My logical mind reminds me that once something is said or done; there is no taking it back. If I deem what was said or done a mistake — an error — all I can do is work to rectify the damage done, learn from it and not make the same mistake again. Unfortunately, I have a history of beating myself up for things I cannot change. I dwell on...

“You can’t make all of the people happy all of the time.” I remind myself of that every day. I know we (especially women of color) walk around trying to convince ourselves that we “don’t care what nobody thinks”, but is that really true? If it were, we wouldn’t spend so much time trying to perfect ourselves. I’m not saying that our desire to be better isn’t self motivated, but there is a...